Looking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern Dating

LFTM Unfiltered

This week is our "question episode" and this season's question was "What do you want to hear our unfiltered, unscripted responses about?". We took your questions/topics from Facebook and Instagram and you're getting our thoughts on those sans filter. Topics range from...finding guys that won't be intimidated by a successful woman... to getting over someone you've never actually dated... to how to handle your friend dating a guy she knew you liked. It's going to be fun!

Backstage Pass: How Do I Bring Up Marriage?

We got this question from a male listener who has been dating his girlfriend for a while now and wants to know how to bring up discussions about marriage... not a proposal necessarily, but starting to broach the subject of spending a lifetime together. There are a lot of different factors to this, but we're taking a look at several common ones. 

8 Ways to End Up Alone (...and how to avoid them)

Well, this episode is a bit of a departure from what we would normally talk about, but as we've gone through this season, we've found that we've repeated the phrase "...and that's a good way to end up alone" a lot, so we decided to just devote a whole episode to it! So, we're covering all sorts of common things we all do that if we're not careful will ensure that we end up alone. 

10 Common Dating Fears And What To Do About Them

We are diving into the things we're probably all scared of to some level but don't want to admit to! Are you afraid you'll become your parents? Are you afraid you're not "ready"? Are you afraid you don't know how to date to begin with? Well, we are right there with you... or, we have been at some point and can totally relate to how that can affect how you approach relationships. So, in this episode, we're breaking these fears down and taking a look at what you can replace it with instead. 

Backstage Pass: Help! I Get Attached too Quickly

This was a really great question from one of our guy listeners! More often than not, it's us girls who talk about getting attached too quickly, but this is an issue that guys run into too, so today we're taking a look at how to navigate this tough situation and give some insight into the female perspective on this!

Things We Wish Our Moms (Generation) Knew

Dating is not what it once was! That's our starting point today and we're diving deeper into this idea and hopefully giving some clarity to a topic that seems to be at odds with older generations sometimes. 

CouchCast on Steroids (Part 2)

We're continuing our Q&A series from our Facebook Group from last week... this week's questions include:

 

1. How do you regain trust within yourself and eventually with someone when your trust was 100% broken by the person you dated previously?
2. I’d love to hear more about dating in your 30s! I know there was an episode of dating in your 20s versus your 30s, but maybe there could be one specifically about 30s and how to navigate that. I feel like there are some unique challenges because both of the people typically have more established/rooted lives
3. Ohhh could y’all talk a little about being single and dating while in Ministry?
4. Something about how to encourage other single friends to be more content in the season…I have by no means perfected it but I have learned a lot from your podcast and other resources to be okay not being in a relationship. However, I have several friends who are often chase guys or complain about not being married yet/put their life on hold waiting for a guy, so advice on how to respond to them and also walk alongside each other in singleness together would be cool to hear!
5. How to bring up the past when those conversations don't come up naturally?

CouchCast Revisited: Can Guys & Girls Be Just Friends?

We're pulling another CouchCast from the archives and taking a look at how our opinions and thoughts have changed since we first recorded it. With this one, I don't know that they have "changed" so much as they've just evolved and matured. So, if you're wondering if you can just be friends with the guys in your life, take a listen and let us know what you think!

CouchCast on Steroids (Part 1)

A couple of weeks ago, we asked our Facebook group what they wanted to hear us talk about and there were so many great questions we couldn't narrow it down! So, we're answering them all instead! Rapid fire style and like a CouchCast on steroids.

Today's Questions:

1. Thoughts on dating someone who is divorced and/or has kids when you haven’t been divorced and don’t have kids.

2. How do you know if you’re dealing with a gut feeling, doubt, or self sabotage when you are first getting to know someone?

3. Am I closing myself off to opportunities to meet someone because I will only talk to guys that live in my area?

4. How to navigate when your best friend is dating someone you don’t approve of/get along with naturally?

5. When is a good time to bring up counseling when starting to date someone?

Opposite Day: What We’ve Learned from Each Other

Kristen and I have discovered that we're complete opposites when it comes to dating, in a lot of ways... But, we've also discovered that "opposite" can often mean "great learning opportunity" too! In this episode, we're both taking a look at some of the things we've learned along the way from each other and also taking a look at the value of having people in your life who aren't exactly like you when it comes to dating.